One of the most difficult moments of life is death. The process of death is an extremely painful state. No words of breath seem powerful enough to quiet our souls. And although many people understand our circumstances and stand with us in our pain, in fact nobody can feel what we feel.
We might feel defrauded by God and deceived by life. We feel much confusion, frustration and impotence that we can do nothing else but cry. We experience anger and abandonment and we do not see any light of hope in the future. The ‘why’ of death becomes the great question that drowns us during those dark moments.
However, the truth is we do not cry for the death itself. We cry because of our loss. We cry to know that all what we know will be erase in future like the chalkboard at the end of the last day of classes.
In moments like these we have the option to become bitter and separate from God or to accept that death is also an important part of life and still our faith in the promises of Christ, who never said that we would live forever but life (I mean, not you or me), life will be eternal.
Life is a gift, but death is a gift also. We receive the gift of life to fulfill a God’s mission in this earth. A mission often incomprehensible for us (like the new born that only lives a day), but not for God to understand. And when we fulfill our mission, we receive the gift to go back home where God waits for us with open arms and a ready heart.
So, some of us will go away sooner than others. Some will do it in a quiet and peaceful way, others in a slow and painful way. Others of us will go away in silence and nobody will remember us and so we will disappear completely, and others of us will have the privilege and the honor to live a long time in the memories of those who loved us.
My intention is not to diminish nor invalidate your natural feelings of pain, but invite you to accept the help of God and Christ and share with them your pain and suffering.
Jesus felt just like you when his beloved friend Lazarus died. The smallest verse in the Bible, John 11:35 says: “And Jesus wept”. Jesus knew Lazarus was ill and could die. When Lazarus died, Jesus knew he had the necessary power to give back life to him, but the single idea of not being able to see his beloved one caused too much pain to Jesus that he could not contain his weeping.
God knows what it means to lose a beloved person, because God whiteness god’s son suffering and die in the most painful and humiliating way: The crucifixion.
Even Jesus knew he was going to die soon, so he prayed to God saying ‘Take away this cup from Me’ and ‘Yet not what I will, but what You will”.
Facing the process of death simply does not mean “to cut the ties and to go ahead”, “close this sad chapter of your life” and “forget it”. To have not opportunity to understand the spiritual meaning of this heart changing experience can be destructive for someone.
To accept the gift of death means release our pain, letting our beloved ones go back home, and honor their lives by continually doing the same things with the same passion, joy and enthusiasm as we did before (when they were still alive).
In Ecclesiastes 3:11b it says, “God has seeded eternity in the human heart”, and so long as you remember them, they will live in your heart.
John 1:13 NIV
Now a man named Lazarus was sick. He was from Bethany, the village of Mary and her sister Martha. This Mary, whose brother Lazarus now lay sick, was the same one who poured perfume on the Lord and wiped his feet with her hair. So the sisters sent word to Jesus, "Lord, the one you love is sick."
When he heard this, Jesus said, "This sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it." Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. Yet when he heard that Lazarus was sick, he stayed where he was two more days.
Then he said to his disciples, "Let us go back to Judea."
"But Rabbi," they said, "a short while ago the Jews tried to stone you, and yet you are going back there?"
Jesus answered, "Are there not twelve hours of daylight? A man who walks by day will not stumble, for he sees by this world’s light. It is when he walks by night that he stumbles, for he has no light." After he had said this, he went on to tell them, "Our friend Lazarus has fallen asleep; but I am going there to wake him up." His disciples replied, "Lord, if he sleeps, he will get better." Jesus had been speaking of his death, but his disciples thought he meant natural sleep. So then he told them plainly, "Lazarus is dead, and for your sake I am glad I was not there, so that you may believe. But let us go to him." Then Thomas (called Didymus) said to the rest of the disciples, "Let us also go, that we may die with him."
On his arrival, Jesus found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb for four days. Bethany was less than two miles from Jerusalem, and many Jews had come to Martha and Mary to comfort them in the loss of their brother. When Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went out to meet him, but Mary stayed at home.
"Lord," Martha said to Jesus, "if you had been here, my brother would not have died. But I know that even now God will give you whatever you ask." Jesus said to her, "Your brother will rise again." Martha answered, "I know he will rise again in the resurrection at the last day."
Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?" "Yes, Lord," she told him, "I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who was to come into the world." And after she had said this, she went back and called her sister Mary aside.
"The Teacher is here," she said, "and is asking for you." When Mary heard this, she got up quickly and went to him. Now Jesus had not yet entered the village, but was still at the place where Martha had met him. When the Jews who had been with Mary in the house, comforting her, noticed how quickly she got up and went out, they followed her, supposing she was going to the tomb to mourn there.
When Mary reached the place where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet and said, "Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died." When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. "Where have you laid him?" he asked. "Come and see, Lord," they replied.
Then the Jews said, "See how he loved him!"
Marco Rubio 2006
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